There are hundreds of pregnancy guides, and advices: how to manage your health and nutrition while your baby is in your tummy, how to deal with stress, how to choose your maternity dress, and many more. Likewise, hundreds of tips for after pregnancy stage are circulating. Even in your neighborhood, you are surely able to pick some from expert mothers. This information varies from one mom to the other, even contradicting at some point. What are we to follow? To clear it up, we compiled a list of tips, the basics, that all mothers mutually share and understand.
1. Follow your instincts.
You may have read a lot of articles and books stating the guidelines to understand baby’s gestures. However, it doesn’t give a sure win process of taming the endless cries of your baby. Each baby is unique, and you have to know yours on your own.
Trust in what your instinct tells you. You need not feed your baby only after three hours, as written in an article, when you think your precious one is already crying a hunger strike. You may be new to this motherhood thing, but, believe me, you know better than those books when it comes to understanding your baby. You just have to observe. You’ll eventually get the hang of it.
2. Breastfeeding or Formula Feeding?
It is best to breastfeed rather than formula feed. Breastfeeding promotes better growth and immunity. Nursing your kid is not an easy task though. At first, it may be uncomfortable not only for you, but also for the baby. It takes weeks of practice to get used to. Seek advice from a lactating consultant, if necessary.
In some cases, a mother may not be able to nurse the baby due to certain medical conditions that prevents her or her baby to undergo breastfeeding. It is a normal situation. Yes, it may not be preferred as compared to breastfeeding, but it does not entail that you fail as a mother by doing so. It is just not suitable for the two of you. Don’t feel guilty about it.
As I’ve mentioned a while ago, observe the actions of your baby. Their actions and their cries are the only language they can give you as of now. Carefully watch and take note of his/her gestures. Each one would probably mean something. So as with their cries. A baby’s cry could sound different on each sensation they feel.
4. Stop trying to be the perfect mother.
Motherhood involves triumphs and failures. No mother has finished her journey without stressing about something, or anything per se. So stop stressing yourself more by thinking that you are not the perfect mother. Instead, be the best mother. When you stumble on your feet, stand up again. Do the best you could for your family.
5. Make time for your husband.
We understand that the sleepless nights and tedious household chores take the toll on you in these first few weeks. It is not easy to adjust to the hectic schedule. But, it is crucial to keep a healthy relationship with your partner as well. It need not be something extravagant. Saying words of endearment, or sharing stories during dinner would be enough.
6. Make time for yourself.
Take care of yourself. Take a bath, wear clean clothes, eat well. You have to be at your best condition to face this stage. Maybe you could take a few minute walk or chit chat with your friends. Sometimes you just have to keep your mind off the baby to keep you going.
Being a mother is fulfilling. Even if you reach a point where you feel that you’re too tired to go on, always remember that you can and you will go on! Hang in there. Enjoy each moment. Little that you notice, your baby would be walking on his/her own foot, and you will be the best person to thank for.